Thursday, April 10, 2008

SUICIDE : Correct or Not?????????

 

We people are really lucky to born as a Human Being. We are having all the resources with us to lead a peaceful and joyful life. Even though we are having so many critical problems in our day to day life most of us leading our life in a fine manner, but some of us don't know how to face those critical parts of life and they are finally finding a simple solution to solve those problems. Simply the solution is SUICIDE!!!

I don't know why these people are finishing their lifetime shortly in a stupid and bitter manner???. What’s the need for that? What they are going to achieve through this? Even though they are eliminating themselves from this competitive world, at the same time they are causing too much pain and problems to their dependents.

GOD gave us this sweet and beautiful opportunity to achieve some thing in this world. Many people who are not having any resources on their hands with them are achieving and achieved many things in their lifetime for Ex : Dr.A.P.J. Abdul Kalam, who achieved so many goals in his lifetime even though he was born in a simple and poor family. Why we people are not able to face even a simple problem?

We are not going to achieve any thing through committing suicide. It is not the correct option to solve the problem. We should fight against those problems and prove ourselves. The reason that I put this post here is, one boy (name and college not mentioned) who is studying in an engineering college (First year) has committed suicide because of the reason that his father had scolded him. His father is a farmer and he made him to study by taking loan from a bank. Since that boy had committed suicide who is going to pay the huge amount of rupees more than 80,000? That boy had not even thought about this for a second. Now his father is going to suffer because of him.

You people tell me what will be the correct solution for the problems that we are facing today, instead of committing suicide?????????

SUICIDE : Correct or Not?????????????

33 comments:

Rachel said...

Good post. First of all today's generation is not faced by any failures in life, coz they get what they wanted too to have. Most of the time parents try to get what they need.

The other reason coz of the movies they watch.

Thirdly, don't have real guts to face the problems.

Very important is that lack of SELF-CONFIDENCE, which is really important in one's life.

Solution would be
Parents should stop comparing with other students.

stop beating when they get low marks.

Treat them more like a friend that children.

Marc said...

Yeah Rachel. Parents are the problem, not the children. The main reason they commit suicide is because of the parents' expectations.

Anonymous said...

I don't have the guts for a suicide, neither am i desperate enough to compete with all other people who are willing to shine.

Do you guys know any other way to escape this, other than suicide.

Anonymous said...

Well, As the gatherers mentioned before, its all because of parents or any upper hand who threatens you. Although they pressurize you for your welfare, this won't work 95%.The easy solution is "Just don't give a damn".
Yes, thats right.
Whenever my mom yells I will make a move from that place and will goto terrace.:D

Anonymous said...

People wanting to commit suicide, write into me. I have recorded myself singing a few songs. That should be enough ;)

Shivakumar, you will have to wait a while for me to get myself to comments on this issue seriously. :)

Selerines said...

@Rachel : See yaar.... We should not target the parents fully. They are not the only reason for these type of things to happen.It's the nature of parents who will expect something from their siblings. Because we are the ones who are going to support them in future. Even though at some point of view your point is correct, i won't accept that they are the only reason for this.

Ok.. You tell me.... If they are telling like this means.. Suicide is the only solution?? Why we people are not having guts to face the problem. They should prove their talent right? If suicide is the only solution means then i should i have committed suicide for more than 100 times in my lifetime.

Selerines said...

@Marc : See marc it's human nature. We are studying in an engineering college and we are expecting our college to do some thing for us right? If our parents are expecting some thing from us means thats the human nature. Because we are the ones going to support them in every thing in future. The parent's expectation is not an bad thing yaar...???? We people only should change our mindset!!!

Selerines said...

@Gauda : You are correct gauda..... we should fight against those problems and prove ourselves to them, instead of choosing these type of silly ends to our valuable life.....

What you will do if you are in the position of facing these type of problems?

Selerines said...

@Visu : Nice idea dude... What i will do is.. I will just get into my mp3 player and hear to the songs with full sound!!!! Simple.....

What you will do? When you are in the same position of facing these type of problems?

Selerines said...

@Kartik : Ok champ.... Am ready to wait..... What songs yaar?????

Anonymous said...

Suicide needs more guts than facing the problem. So show the guts in facing the problem, After all you are going to die someday, let it not be a suicide.

Rachel said...

Check my blog.

Sundar said...

Rather than commit suicide, why not have a go at the person who's making you feel so bad? :D Thats essentially my philosophy. Someone or something makes you feel bad, dont give a damn about it..

Marc said...

See Rachel's blog. Don't know why she shifted her answer there.

The over expectation of parents is the main problem. Nothing else.

If parents encourage their children to develop skills instead of arbitrary exam scores the kids would have a peaceful life and also grow up smart.

Selerines said...

@Hari : You are absolutely correct da.....

Selerines said...

@Rachel : Why you shifted the discussion to your blog yaar!!!!!

Selerines said...

@Marc : I accept your point da... Over expectation!!!!! You are correct!!!

Rachel said...

Dai paavi, i too said over expectation only. Chumma only buhaa..thalaya i shifted.

Rachel said...

If you waan me to delete that, no problem just tell.I'll do yaar.

Rachel said...

okay dude deleted in my blog. here's my comment.

Selerines, what’s my point is that parents should expect only to the children’s capacity. See for example you get 95 in maths and i get 45 in maths, but i maybe good at other subject, where you may or maynot get good marks. So if my parents expect me to get 95( as you said human nature) okay at least i can try but they can’t just force me to get. Thankfully, my parents are not like that.

“Why we people are not having guts to face the problem”.Speaking of this point, as i said earlier, it’s coz of LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE.When students lack their confidence? when parents itself compare their own children with others and discourage them, then they lack it totally.

@Visu, your right when our parents start yelling better leave that place. I gotta to say the children’s who suicide coz they their parents shouted at them, they are to be called insane.

Anonymous said...

I face this many times and so I don't wanna comment on this. An advice for you siva. Don't answer to others comments separately. Just answer in one comment. You are taking one comment to answer to one person. This is crazy. Its like increasing your comment count...

Anonymous said...

Astounding !!!
Vinod's comment without the keywords ROFL and LOL. !!!

Rofl.

Selerines said...

@ROFL guy : It is not to increase the comment count yaar. It is my way of commenting... I don't want to live like others.. I always waana be different..... See the caption of my blog...

Selerines said...

@Rachel : No yaar.... Am not mistakened you..... Chumma only i asked.....

When is not understanding and expecting more from us means. We should make ourselves to see it in positive way and to make things different............

Anonymous said...

But I think its better if you answer in a single comment.

Selerines said...

@ROFL guy : Ok yaar.... I will try your suggestion in my blog while commenting....

Anonymous said...

We can't justify committing suicide by any means. No one has rights to end their life by committing suicide. I accept with you that parents expect more from their children, and that put them into pressure that leads to depression and to suicide.

Anonymous said...

Suicide is wrong. No matter to what point you ared riven in life. It's simply something we should not choose in life.

Having said that, I beg to differ from the author in these aspects:

1) Suicide is not a simple solution. The person goes through a series of traumatic experiences and thoughts before giving up completely. No one commits suicide without giving it some thought.

2)The idea of competitive world itself could be flawed. What if I can't compete ? Should I remain at the lowest rung hating every moment of my existence ?

3)Causing pain and problems to their dependants/parents:

If the dependant/parents were supportive enough in the first place and did not constantly nag that person, he/she would not even be driven to taking that decision. They fully deserve the problems they will face later on. They are even to blame for it.

4) God did not give us a life to achieve something. Who on earth gave you that idea ? You capitalist!! God gave us all lives so that we could enjoy our lives and make ourselves useful to others and live in harmony. (Ok, maybe not, I don't know, but it's dfinitely not to achieve something.)

5)Sorry, but proving yourself is not an option. Why should I prove myself to people who I look down upon anyway ?

I hope this gu and his father aren't very well aquainted to you, but the dad is fully to blame. I don't think his father suffered because of the boy. Totally wrong. Dad's should not have kids if they cannot provide for them. e should instead have used the loan to educate himself. Why didn't he attend evening school ? He would have known how difficult it is if he had.

I am as mentally strong as can get. I am thick skinned enough, but I must say I did consider this myself :) Well, even if not too seriously. But that involved killing a few people first. :D

Selerines said...

@Joel : Ya you are correct da....

@Kartik :

1.) Ya suicide is not the simple solution, what am telling is it is not the correct solution!!!

2.) Competitive world in the sense day by day we are facing so many challenges. At each and every sector challenge is waiting for you... Thats what i said!! Any way i accept your point champ...

3.) Fully accepted.... Nice point.... But even in that kind of situation we should make ourselves to see the things in positive manner.. Thats what am saying da... I know they are the first reason for all these things to happen...

4.) Each one of us are having some meaning for our life respecively..... We should try to achieve some thin during our lifetime in correct way.... Born as a poor boy and leaving this world as a poor man. No use and no meaning for that person life. thats what am saying. The point is each one of us shpuld realise the thing that we can able to do and we should make ourselves ready to achieve that thing rather than trying these sort of stupid things in our life.

I will send you the mail of that incident da champ... Here i have not indicated any thing because of some reasons... Send ne your mail id da.....

Anonymous said...

@Sivakumar,

Ok, if you had reasons to withhold facts, thats left to you. :) You are the best judge of what you should and should not post.

All I am saying is, unless the boy was doing very badly in adacds and not taking interest and instead wasting his life (only)hanging out and stuff, I don't think his dad should have been harsh on him. Parents don't realise the difficulties. I know they face difficulties to bring us up. No doubt about that. It's hard bringing up children. But then,don't drive them to the point of suicide and then feel miserable once they die.

Also, Sivakumar, the whole point behind suicide is making others life miserable. So that they feel bad about their actions for every living second of their life. You pay for that with your life.

But, then I strongly condemn suicide. I recommend killing other people instead. Atleast you will achieve something in life. :D (Killing the weed isn't wrong)

Selerines said...

@Kartik : Ya correct yaar.......

Again what am telling is if the parents are not understanding us means, then we should not take that in negative way. Instead we shuld take that in positive way and through that we should try to achieve some thing and prove them that they are wrong in their action. This is my point da champ!!!!

Will you accept this yaar?

Anonymous said...

Suicide often happens to be the only opened door (not a reasonable decision or choice : there is, or seems to be, no choice) to escape from mental unbearable pain.

Nearly anybody understands people who decide to end their life when they have a cancer, for example, and just can't stand such a physical pain any more. Is it so difficult, even if one never felt it by oneself, to understand that some can't stand some mental agonizing suffering ?

Even thinking of the pain you will cause to your relatives will not help. It will only make you even more depressed and increase your unbearable feelings.

What is a simple drawback, or a bad period, to somebody can be the hell for someone else. We are all different and don't feel things the same way...

Selerines said...

@Fantôme de Lune : Ya i accept your views friend..... Your blog name please!!!!!!

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